I have a Ring. Its a crown with one of the sides broken up and the top piece missing; its damaged, its old and it hardly ever matches my clothing.
I wear it on the ring finger of my left hand.
Adults always mock me with amused glances and disparaging remarks such as: "Are you getting married?" or "Who's your fiance?" or the ever popular "Your ring is on the wrong finger." accompanied by a pitying look for my apparent ignorance on the placement of rings. Even the photographers who were taking my Senior Pictures wanted to know if I wanted to switch the Ring to my other hand.
To that I looked them in the eye and told them 'No' with the barely restrained patience of someone who has been asked the same question too many times before.
No, the Ring is not on the wrong finger nor is it placed there because of my ignorance of ring placement rituals.
Its there for a reason.
Now, that isn't to say that I'm above temptation or that I look down on people that haven't made the same decision that I have. Quite frankly, I don't care. I'm not going to reject you as a friend or a person because you had sex before getting married, or have a kid out of wedlock. I may not approve, but it really doesn't affect my opinion of you as a person. You are free to make your own decisions and I'm not going to judge you for them.
I just know where I stand.
The Ring is a reminder to keep the promise I made to myself and to God.
So next time you see a girl with a ring on her left hand, don't tease her, don't tell her its wrong.
Ask her why.
~Shattered
Sunday, August 8, 2010
This Chick Here: The Ring
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3 comments:
I'm glad you are sticking to it. I made the mistake when I was 16 and regretted ever since. The guy I was with then basically was cheating on me (which I found out after we broke up) and got married soon after. Not that my second boyfriend was much better (total nutjob).
But you should stick with it. It's a good thing. And I only wish that I had the patience to wait until I was older...
I'm glad to see I'm not alone. I've occasionally been teased about my purity ring too. I had made the decision a long time ago, though only got a ring to show it last year. Even before I was Christian I thought sex was something sacred, and that should only be shared with someone you truly love.
I feel like I should say congratulations :)
Now I feel a bit guilty because, even though I'm a virgin at 19, I don't necessarily plan to wait until marriage despite the fact that I consider myself a Christian. I do, however, want to wait until I'm absolutely sure that it's with the right person. In March, I got out of a 2 year relationship because my boyfriend-at-the-time was pressuring me to have sex, but I knew he wasn't right for me.
But anyway. Enough about me. I'm glad you're sticking with it. Even if it gets a lot of negative attention now, people will definitely respect you later. Remember this: Those girls who aren't virgins, who fling sex around like it's nothing? You can be like them any time you want, but they can never again be like you. :)
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